As a couples counselor and sex therapist, I help individuals and couples figure out what their needs and desires are in their relationships. Whether you come in alone or with your partner, learn how to stop struggling and connect.

You strive for connection with others and would love to be understood by those around you. What freedom and fulfillment you would have if you were able to express your deepest hopes and dreams openly with others. Helping both individuals and couples find a new means of communication, trust and understanding is why I continue to love what I do day in and day out.  

Who knew when you started googling find a therapist near me that you would’ve found so many therapists online in California and locally in San Diego. And yet, sometimes it can feel like they are all saying the same thing. How do you find someone who truly meets your needs and understands what YOU are all about?

what drew me to becoming a couples therapist and sex therapist is my love for helping people who have been through hard situations and want to make their life better. I love seeing people not just heal, but the impact that they make when they are happier and healthier on their families, friends, and communities.

I’m Dr. Nikki Nolet, and I specialize in relationships, intimacy, communication, and connection using couples therapy and sex therapy with an emphasis on intimacy.

Nowadays, there are so many tools and tricks but how do you navigate them, and how does it bring you more connection in your relationship: card decks, retreats, and books that give relationship advice, so it can feel really scary for you to find a solution. I’ve been told by my clients that having someone to help facilitate difficult conversations is priceless. Time and time again, couples I work with state how valuable the sessions together are over the numerous tools or even previous therapists they have been to. This therapy is not only about discussing the weekly irritation but goes deeper to uncover the patterns and lead you to heal the wounds you may have inflicted on one another unconsciously. I know it can feel like a big step to call a counselor, but I’ll make it easy. We’ll spend 15-minutes on the phone and I’ll let you know how or if I can help. If I am not the right person, I’ll do my best to get you to the right person.

How I can help as a couples counselor and sex therapist in all areas of California and San Diego?

As a couples therapist, I am here to hold the mirror to your inner truth and authentic selves - so that you can fully know, understand & embrace who you really are.

You’re in the right place if you are exhausted, frazzled and tired of feeling disappointment or being a disappointment to others. Learn how to get what you really want…

Find Freedom and fulfillment in your deepest desires & passions

My Approach:

I practice from a post-modern perspective, which to me means that I am intent on providing a safe space, free of criticism and judgment. It is important to me to develop a authentic and meaningful relationship with my clients, and view my roll not as an expert observer, but as a guide and confidant to provide insight for your relationship to move towards a space where connection, communication and hope reside.  I am an integrative therapist, which means I utilize my knowledge from various trainings, certifications and knowledge to benefit each and every one of my clients based on what they are needing at the time.

I rely on my clients to share their stories and experiences with me, and together we can forge a path to understanding and being able to express your deepest hopes and dreams. Together we can understand your experiences, and to look for alternative pathways in moments you might feel stuck, uncomfortable or even dysregulated.  I love seeing people discover their true selves, rediscover connection and reignite passion within themselves and their partners. 

My focus with clients is the relationship, allowing me to remain non-biased and invite curiosity into the space and to avoid invitation of blame and criticism into our sessions.

Education & Training:

• Ph.D in Clinical Sexology

• Licensed Marriage and Family Therapist

• Certified Sex Therapist with the American Association of Sexuality Educators, Counselors, and Therapists (AASECT)

• Masters Degree in Clinical Psychology from Antioch University 2014

• Advanced Certified Imago Relationship Therapist

• Sex Therapy Training at The Center for Healthy Sex

• Certified Interanalytic Couples Therapist

• Certified (ART) Accelerated Resolution Therapist for Trauma

• Emotionally Focused Therapy (EFT Couples Therapy)

• Encountered Centered Couples Therapist

• Certified Interanalytic Couples Therapist

• Certified Prepare/Enrich Facilitator

• Facilitator of the Gottman Relationship Checkup

• Attachment Theory

• Advanced Narrative Therapy with Stephen Madigan, David Nylund and Lorraine Hedtke

• Member of both the Los Angeles & San Diego Center for Emotionally Focused Therapy (LA-CEFT)

• Member of the California Association of Marriage and Family Therapists (CAMFT)

• Member of the American Association of Couples and Sex Therapists (AACAST)

• Member of the Society of Sex Therapy and Research

• Member of the American Association of Sexuality Educators, Counselors, and Therapists (AASECT)

• **If you are curious to know more about each of these modalities, check out my FAQ page.

  When I’m not taking advanced couples and sex therapy courses, I enjoy hiking, singing, discovering unknown or small foodie restaurants, navigating around Southern California or planning my next international adventure. I also enjoy relaxing and enjoying the company of my partner, my family and my dogs.

As a couples counselor and sex therapist, I help individuals and couples figure out what their needs and desires are in their relationships. Whether you come in alone or with your partner, learn how to stop struggling and connect.

You strive for connection with others and would love to be understood by those around you. What freedom and fulfillment you would have if you were able to express your deepest hopes and dreams openly with others. Helping both individuals and couples find a new means of communication, trust and understanding is why I continue to love what I do day in and day out.  

Who knew when you started googling find a therapist near me that you would’ve found so many therapists online in California and locally in San Diego. And yet, sometimes it can feel like they are all saying the same thing. How do you find someone who truly meets your needs and understands what YOU are all about?

what drew me to becoming a couples therapist and sex therapist is my love for helping people who have been through hard situations and want to make their life better. I love seeing people not just heal, but the impact that they make when they are happier and healthier on their families, friends, and communities.

I’m Nikki Nolet, and I specialize in relationships, intimacy, communication, and connection using couples therapy and sex therapy with an emphasis on intimacy.

Nowadays, there are so many tools and tricks but how do you navigate them, and how does it bring you more connection in your relationship: card decks, retreats, and books that give relationship advice, so it can feel really scary for you to find a solution. I’ve been told by my clients that having someone to help facilitate difficult conversations is priceless. Time and time again, couples I work with state how valuable the sessions together are over the numerous tools or even previous therapists they have been to. This therapy is not only about discussing the weekly irritation but goes deeper to uncover the patterns and lead you to heal the wounds you may have inflicted on one another unconsciously. I know it can feel like a big step to call a counselor, but I’ll make it easy. We’ll spend 15-minutes on the phone and I’ll let you know how or if I can help. If I am not the right person, I’ll do my best to get you to the right person.

How I can help as a couples counselor and sex therapist in all areas of California and San Diego?

As a couples therapist, I am here to hold the mirror to your inner truth and authentic selves - so that you can fully know, understand & embrace who you really are.

You’re in the right place if you are exhausted, frazzled and tired of feeling disappointment or being a disappointment to others. Learn how to get what you really want…

Find Freedom and fulfillment in your deepest desires & passions

My Approach:

I am a Licensed Marriage and Family Therapist working in private practice. I practice from a post-modern perspective, which to me means that I am intent on providing a safe space, free of criticism and judgment. It is important to me to develop a authentic and meaningful relationship with my clients, and view my roll not as an expert observer, but as a guide and confidant to provide insight for your relationship to move towards a space where connection, communication and hope reside.  I am an integrative therapist, which means I utilize my knowledge from various trainings, certifications and knowledge to benefit each and every one of my clients based on what they are needing at the time.

I rely on my clients to share their stories and experiences with me, and together we can forge a path to understanding and being able to express your deepest hopes and dreams. Together we can understand your experiences, and to look for alternative pathways in moments you might feel stuck, uncomfortable or even dysregulated.  I love seeing people discover their true selves, rediscover connection and reignite passion within themselves and their partners. 

My focus with clients is the relationship, allowing me to remain non-biased and invite curiosity into the space and to avoid invitation of blame and criticism into our sessions.

Education & Training:

• Licensed Marriage and Family Therapist

• Certified Sex Therapist with the American Association of Sexuality Educators, Counselors, and Therapists (AASECT)

• Masters Degree in Clinical Psychology from Antioch University 2014

• Advanced Certified Imago Relationship Therapist

• Sex Therapy Training at The Center for Healthy Sex

• Certified Interanalytic Couples Therapist

• Certified (ART) Accelerated Resolution Therapist for Trauma

• Working towards Ph.D in Clinical Sexology

• Emotionally Focused Therapy (EFT Couples Therapy)

• Encountered Centered Couples Therapist

• Certified Interanalytic Couples Therapist

• Certified Prepare/Enrich Facilitator

• Facilitator of the Gottman Relationship Checkup

• Attachment Theory

• Advanced Narrative Therapy with Stephen Madigan, David Nylund and Lorraine Hedtke

• Member of both the Los Angeles & San Diego Center for Emotionally Focused Therapy (LA-CEFT)

• Member of the California Association of Marriage and Family Therapists (CAMFT)

• Member of the American Association of Couples and Sex Therapists (AACAST)

• Member of the Society of Sex Therapy and Research

• Member of the American Association of Sexuality Educators, Counselors, and Therapists (AASECT)

• **If you are curious to know more about each of these modalities, check out my FAQ page.

  When I’m not taking advanced couples and sex therapy courses, I enjoy hiking, singing, discovering unknown or small foodie restaurants, navigating around Southern California or planning my next international adventure. I also enjoy relaxing and enjoying the company of my partner, my family and my dogs.

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